I have been moody the last couple days, and I think I know the reason why.
Greg and I have been preparing our Wills. Where Veronica will go after her dad, and I pass on has been weighing heavy on my mind. The plan is for her to live with Kylie {her older sister}, but what if it turns out that that is not an option. We would like her to stay with family, so I composed this letter to be sent to three of her female cousins.
Hi _______,
This is a serious message that will need to be read carefully.
Uncle Greg and I won’t be here forever, and when we are no longer alive, the plan is for Veronica to live with Kylie. However, as we all know, life can change in an instant. If Kylie is not here to take care of, watch over, and love Veronica, we would like to have peace of mind that she will be with family. Ours and Veronica’s very worst fear is that she would be put into a group home.
Veronica will have resources to be used to live on.
We are sending this same letter to ______ and _______.
It is a very large commitment, we know. Veronica is 100% physically capable. She can clean and help around the house, but is unable to work, drive, or live alone due to poor decision-making skills, and little impulse control. She does not see ahead of time the consequences of her actions. This is why we are asking you, if Kylie, for any reason, is not able to care for Veronica, is caring for Veronica something you would consider? While it is a very unlikely event, there is a remote possibility.
Our lawyers recommend an alternative plan in the unlikely event that Kylie would not be here to take care of Veronica after we, Uncle Greg and I, pass away.
We would really appreciate it if you would think about this and get back to us within 2 weeks. This is a short time and a huge decision, but we must get our affairs in order in a timely manner.
We all love you and won’t love you any less or be angry if you say “No”.
We look forward to hearing back from you soon.
Love,
Uncle Greg and Aunt Dawn
This has been a deep, difficult, and thoughtful time. No one wants to do this, or think about this, but it must be done.
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May you all have the strength and ability to think ahead as we are.
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